Husband's death - calendars

My beloved husband died on 20 May last year. I always bought him a day-to-day peel off "Peanuts" desk calendar as he was a great Snoopy fan. By the beginning of 2011 he was not well enough to interest himself in this, and the calendar has been sitting on his desk ever since. A few weeks ago, on a bad day for me, I casually flipped through it to see which of the characters were on, for example, his birthday, our anniversary etc. I then thought I would check Friday 20 May, the date of his death - and the page for that day was not there! The spine of the calendar is untouched so no-one has removed the page (in any case I now live on my own and no visitors would tamper with it). In a second related coincidence, I bought a white hardy fuchsia to plant in the garden where we scattered my husband's ashes (since there was no room for another tree). I researched what I was looking for on the internet and purchased a specimen on line. It is a single white fuchsia called 'Hawkshead'. Despite being a fairly keen gardener, I had never heard of it, neither had any of the family. Last week, I was getting rid of a BBC Gardeners' World calendar for 2011. If of course has lovely photos and I just casually looked through in case there was any I wished to keep. Imagine my surprise when I came to May (the month of my husband's death) and found a picture of Fuchsia Hawkshead on that page. By May, my husband was in our local hospice so I was hardly at home and don't think I even went into the room where the calendar was, so I certainly did not see it. Strangely enough, I mentioned both these events only yesterday at a bereavement support group I am attending at the Hospice; everyone there found it a bit weird. I am now waiting for coincidence number 3! Incidentally, Bill's toy Snoopy (which I bought him 30 years ago, a constant companion!) was on his pillow when he died and was cremated with him - their ashes are therefore both buried with the fuchsia, a nice rounding up of both stories. Sheila Brown
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Date submitted:Sat, 14 Jan 2012 09:36:25 +0000Coincidence ID:3704